Lately, I’ve been grappling with an overwhelming need to be in control. My mind tends to function better when I can anticipate outcomes based on my choices, but the more I try to control things, the more disappointed I become, realizing that some things are simply beyond our influence.
I once believed that by creating a wall between myself and those who unsettled my spirit, things would improve. However, this approach actually strained my peace, as I found myself overthinking every interaction to ensure those boundaries weren’t breached. It became clear that controlling these external factors was harder than acknowledging my own lack of self-control in those situations.
The reality is, we often compare ourselves to others or set unrealistic expectations for them, instead of accepting them for who they are. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t offer grace, but rather that we should acknowledge their actions and character. I constantly remind myself that our children are not us, so we shouldn’t compare them to our past selves. Our coworkers may not share the same passion, so we shouldn’t expect them to perform as we do. And our parents are fighting their own battles, making grace incredibly important; it reminds us that different isn’t always bad.
To be honest, being surrounded by only like-minded individuals would be quite boring, and that’s where the need for control often leads us – to a lack of challenge, growth, and new experiences. God intentionally created each of us uniquely, from how we walk, talk, think, and act. That’s why it’s so vital to allow people to be who they are, as we don’t know how God intends to use those characteristics to further His kingdom.
Despite this understanding, I still find myself falling short on days when my faith wavers. I allow my human nature to take over, knowing the defeat I’ll feel during reflection at the end of the day. So, I’m now working on radical acceptance, recognizing that controlling situations doesn’t change them, but changing our perspective changes everything.
Learning to accept life and situations for what they are and focusing on moving forward is the best course of action. This is a reminder that all obstacles have a purpose, and barriers help us grow. God has so much in store for us, but we often stand in the way by trying to control what He has already orchestrated. It’s truly time to let go!
When in control we will find ourselves….
C-Convicted
O-Overwhelmed
N-Negative
T-Tired
R-Regretful
O-Offended
L-Lonely
This was powerful. The way you broke down how control can leave us feeling drained and disconnected really hit home. That CONTROL acronym was everything—simple but deep. Thanks for keeping it real and sharing your journey. Needed this today!
The lord is right on time with this ! Thank you Jesus for using this woman of God for the appointed time in need of this message !